A wedding in San Francisco couldn’t solve all their problems
Apr 21st, 2008 by Holly Fox
The New York Times Modern Love column prints stories about love and relationships. This week’s column is written by a lesbian who married her partner in San Francisco. She discusses some of the domestic partnership laws in California, how they’ve affected her life, and why she still thinks marriage offers gay couples more. Her reasons have less to do with the law and more to do with being a full member of our society.
The astonishing outpouring of support from our straight friends taught me a profound lesson: getting married is a rite of passage into a wide circle of shared humanity. With a real wedding — not a commitment ceremony, not a domestic partnership registry — we were initiated into a crowded circle of people who automatically affirmed our very beings.
Do you think being legally married validates a relationship?
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